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Humor in a second language!

Comedy shows and amusing friends are always great. Laughter can be an icebreaker and even medicinal to the sick, it is almost like a second language of conversation (apart from the body language of course).  As adults, we only laugh about 15 times a day. Given how many hours we spent watching television and working, the number is small.

On the other hand, a child exhibits laughing 300 times or more per day. Imagine a baby being tickled, it always follows their sounds of enjoyment and the joy a parent in the situation experiences. Over the course of years, humans have invested in ways to make sure they have something to laugh about. Jokes, memes, comedians, sitcoms, funny home videos and more get shared and viewed regularly.

Now imagine that you are in a foreign country and need to speak a second language. Can you be just as funny in the other language as you would be in your native tongue? I always have looked in awe at those people who have a great sense of humor or even with sarcasm they can make others laugh. It is imperative that among friends or groups in conversation, humor keeps things interesting. Story-telling and teasing or sharing experience can only go so far in a chat. I think funny people have more friends.

It could just be the figment of my imagination, but I was always little funny in my native tongue. Now when I am expressing thoughts in a second language (English) it all seems non-traditional. It comes as a surprise because I did all my schooling in the globally popular English language.

Recently I watched a documentary on BBC showing how the human brain has immense potential. A child was speaking and learning multiple languages and indeed, the brain always stayed in tune with the required skill to grasp and process all the data.This article also indicates how Alzheimer’s and Dementia can be kept away with some linguistic skills. The hippocampus region of the brain processes various language switches.

For all intensive purposes of this article, I would say humor and language don’t always get along. I might have to sit through some more comedy night shows and maybe read some ‘knock knock’ jokes to be agreeably funny. Also, more research will be needed to fully understand the human psyche and what triggers the funny bones.

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Posted by on March 1, 2017 in Writing


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Happiness imagery or real?


We tend to keep changing over time and it is hard not to judge what you achieve over a long haul. Achievements in every aspect are not overseen by the society. Today I decided to come along and join a writers group but guess what shyness is still clinging to me. After months of talking to strangers, my inhibitions don’t leave me alone. So back to my topic about individual checklist and the inkling to compare and comment on where we stand is always strong but what should be the best way to do it?

If I think how far I have come today from that kid I was in school? Not anywhere close to the free spirit I was, it is just all complicated as we grow. I think my self-introspection is too harsh and I should give more time to grow, reach out and mold this notion I have about being an ideal person. I earn enough to get by and save some for future, I am not on the verge of hating my job and I laugh and cry like anybody else. Then as I sit by myself or come to introduce what I do to strangers there is a hint of embarrassment in my tone. As if everyone would know my dreams were crushed on my journey somewhere and now I fear even to start fresh.

Is happiness only measurable in success? Will I be happy just with achievements of my future children or will I be more passionate to explore and be ambitious? Does my private life define accomplishment or my possession and bank balance?

If I cover my doubts with reassuring thoughts will I be lying to myself or will it be positive thinking? I am always comparing the present day to the stone age if men would be happier without all these scales to compare their life to? Money, possessions, ambitions and the rushing to and fro for work is unnerving.

What could we do to even things out?

List your priorities: Not all individuals are homing birds or ambition driven, some just want to be left alone. There are individuals who take each day as it comes. A list of priorities will be ideal, but leave room for flexibility and change.

Don’t be judgmental: The world gets its laughter and joy from mockery and comparing. Don’t give it that pleasure to kill your spirits. All we need to do is live by our own rules. Falling down the cracks of imperfections will be a direct road to a depressed life scenario.

Cherish your accomplishment: You have worked hard to achieve degrees, relationships, awards, jobs and bonuses that come along with it. Your kindness could have made a person smile or a simple gesture did change one’s sorrow to joy. Give yourself a pat on the shoulder for getting through the roller coaster ride.

Set your own scale: Small goals always tend to bring joy when fulfilled. If a target is set for 10 years from now, you may not reach there or even get a little off track sometimes. Giving a 1 month or 6 week target followed by 10-month goal maybe more doable and achievable. Long term goals show us the prize, but we have to enjoy the race for its adrenaline rush as well.

Bring friends & family close: We shy away from people we know if there is any failure in our life. We fear to lose them, worry that they will misjudge us or lose faith in us. But it is not always true. Our social circles can be the endless source of guidance and support. Let them in your world and share the fears with them, you never know how their ideas can give the push you just needed.

Happiness is a state of mind and based on the situation in life and the number of goals achieved, one day can be infinitesimally different from another. So let break your self-imposed inhibitions and shackles so you can take on the next challenge.


Waterfall – nature’s blessing

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Posted by on October 27, 2016 in Experiences


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Time to clean the cluttered!

Too messy

Too messy

Moments of realization and wisdom can strike upon you at any time. I am sure most of us have come across such situations. Just like the ‘eureka’ moment we learn important lesson of life. Everyone has some things, items, ideas, people, incidents and emotions to clear away so new things can take its place. Most of the time we are running around doing nothing and just trying to engage ourselves in some monotonous work that we miss out chance to see this piled up clutter.

At times we place these items to be discarded in a temporary spot until there is no more room. We assume that some day it will be cleared when there is free time. No kidding honey but it is not going to move itself. We have to stop everything else and then start to clean up from scratch to have a clean reusable spot. Organizing can be difficult, especially when there is a race everyday to reach work on time or feed our hungry stomach and much more. However, we must notice this clutter from time to time and eliminate it. This process helps, not only does it give you room back that just was held by unnecessary stuff, but also takes away the negative vibes getting formed around this old junk.

I had my eureka moment in the kitchen when I realized moving the dishes from the dishwasher to the rack is not going to help. I need to put them in the shelves and arrange them neatly so I can enjoy my next day culinary experience and get more space to work with. Emotionally we pile on a huge load of memories, hatred, unsorted issues and mixed emotions. It is necessary to let the old experiences to go away.

Take few moments for yourself. It can seem hard at first, but with gradual steps you can de-clutter your whole life. Learn your lessons, have fun while you can, but make sure these old garbage bags are recycled. Otherwise you will be surrounded with stink and believe it or not the stink of karma, bad emotion handling and holding on can be noticed by others. If your wardrobe at home is messy you may close the doors at a time, hide it from guests but one day the whole thing comes crashing down.

Before that horrible day comes make sure to de-clutter. Clean and bring all the fresh good energy in your life.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

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Posted by on February 14, 2013 in Writing


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