As a teenager, I enjoyed reading a lot and something I read back then got stuck in my brain. Even over the years when I think of it, the notion does seem right. The article was about a woman who felt like a victim most her life. It described how events happened over years and caused her suffering. The mindset that she had followed was that of a victim. How she was mistreated and endured bad relations, bad luck etc. The author then suggested changing the mindset to that of authority. He suggested owning her mistakes and taking responsibility for the doubtful and timid approach that was running her life.
During a bad phase or depressed state of mind, we tend to overthink of all the horrible things that happened to us. It could be a vicious circle, we fall into deeper sorrows and bring out more unfortunate events upon us. The abilities of judgement and common sense just become foggy and then begins a long painful journey of the victim.
Is there a strong pattern to these gloomy predictions for the person already in an upset state? Our mind works in mysterious ways, we have the ability of decision making and considering all pros and cons at a given moment the choice is made. If we always incline towards the dangerous and unknown to earn more positive experiences we tend to move in that direction. A person who has bad experiences will remember the trauma and plight related to it and reduce the risks they might take. As there are fewer opportunities the outcome is in a small range.
Risk takers win
There are research articles on the wealthy 1% of the population that owns the maximum money world. Is it comparable to the idea of achieving satisfaction or accomplishments in life? The pool of successful outcome multiplies as more investment is added to it. A million dollar loss to a billionaire is not as traumatic as it would be for a freshly graduated business enthusiast.
Shock and grief
I was researching about grief when a death in family shocked us all. It clearly indicated we go into a stage of fear and stress. It is a bad combination for a person juggling to be normal and overcome the sorrow. Even our brains hardwire the neural networks through same paths of depression and risk-avoiding behavior. Just like the flight or fight situation, we always run away from the issues. The most helpful suggestion included breaking these upsetting channels. How positive affirmations and a quick reminder that nothing is permanent, can help combat the issue. To try soothing activities and avert mind from falling into the loop of negativity.
Let positivity prevail
The person feeling victimized cannot control how other people behave towards them, but they can control how they project themselves to the world. If we can break the fear of the unknown and take some risk without contemplating about the outcome, there can be better things waiting for us. Own our actions and believe that uncertainty lies at every step, but it shouldn’t stop us from trying new paths. Let me know what you think. Share and speak up.